How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People my second review comes a decision to format each book review article in the same way. This should provide commonality across them as they grow in number and provide me with a clear format on what I should be including a set amount of information. So each review from now on will begin with a summary, my takeaways then finally some of my favourite quotes. So lets yet into it 🙂

Summary of How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is a pretty old book, first published in 1937 its sold over 30 million copies and is listed as one of the best selling and most influential books of all time. The version I have recently finished is an updated version that reframes Carnegie’s original topics and frames them around using social media and the Internet, things that were pure imagination back in the 30’s.

The book goes through a number of key principles of communication, self-expression, leadership and how your or business actions in certain situations can go different ways depending on how you take them and react either in good or bad ways. It poses a number of scenarios in story format of ways in which businesses or people have addresses situations and the consequences of such actions advising you as the reader on the good and bad things so should you find yourself in a similar situation you are better equipped through your learnings of the book.

My Takeaways from How to Win Friends and Influence People

I have heard about How to Win Friends and Influence People a bunch of times over the years, it’s much shorter than I thought it would be. It’s more of guidelines on how to be a nice person more than anything else and how just being a good person generally leads to great things somewhere or another. After reading it, what is hyped as one of the must-reads of one’s lifetime I didn’t really think it was that great, maybe this was the first book back in the 30’s to say these mantras to live by, but I feel like I’ve read them all a dozen times now over the years in other self-help/growth books and blogs.

The version I read was published in 2011, adding the digital age to the title kind of means it gets outdated fast, with tech and the technology industry moving at a blistering pace it speaks about Facebook back then not the raging behemoth it is now and doesn’t even mention Instagram, I guess that this update needs updating again.

Favourite Quotes

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie

“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.” – Dale Carnegie

“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.” – Dale Carnegie

“By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.” – Dale Carnegie

Closing Words

Would I recommend How to Win Friends and Influence People, probably I would ask a question on how many self-help books the reader has already read if only a couple, crack on but if you have read a fair number you have likely already heard most of the teachings but its short enough to blast through in a week or so?

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